“Prince Rabadash’s army lay close behind them, Anvard ahead. If they did not reach Anvard before Rabadash and his horde, their journey, their entire lives, would have been wasted. The horses, Bree and Hwin (both of whom could, of course, talk) galloped. Certainly both horses were doing, if not all they could, all they thought they could do; which is not quite the same thing. But a lion appeared out of nowhere and with the spur of terror; Bree now discovered that he had not really been going as fast, not quite as fast, as he could”.
This extract is of course taken from The Chronicles of Narnia, that fount of a million, simple and usually overlooked truths and it illustrates perfectly what it takes for some of us to be steered out of our comfort zone.
Perhaps of all the temptations we meet in life, money, power, sex, alcohol, drugs and fame, the subtlest of all is the comfort zone, that invitation to settle for less, to go for content when the stresses of over achievement beckon. The way that takes you out of the comfort zone is the route less travelled by. Most of us when we come to that place where the two paths divide prefer the one that leads to safety, to warmth and to comfort.
Both in sport and in business, I have witnessed countless companies,
friends, colleagues and team-mates that underachieved, despite having
far superior skills and talents when compared to others who have made
it to the top. The reasons have always been the same, fear of leaving
the comfort zone
and entering into the unknown, the land potentially of failure and
rejection. But I believe there is another way to motivate individuals
and coax them out and it relies on one simple fact, most people do not
know what they want from life. Certainly, the majority working in a
commercial field will say they crave success but without understanding
what success means for them. Of course, describing success is
difficult, because it will be different for all of us. The definition I
prefer is “The achievement of a worthwhile goal”
I believe that I can speak with authority about the comfort zone,
but in my case, I was lucky enough to discover Earl Nightingale,
probably the greatest motivational speaker and personal development
guru of our time.
It was towards the end of 1990 when I felt the first pangs of
professional unfulfilment and began to contemplate the harsh reality
that with my fortieth year fast approaching if I was really going to
leave my mark on the world and achieve something for me, then I really
needed to get cracking.
Oh that it were that simple! Moving out of a comfort zone, which
included a six-figure salary, sizeable bonus, stock options, luxury
company car, pension and relative security would take guts for sure,
but it would also require huge commitment and tremendous self-belief.
Armed with a newly acquired MBA and almost twenty years commercial
experience gained working for some of the biggest players around the
globe at the highest levels, I thought I knew a thing or two about
business, but translating that knowledge and experience into a saleable
commodity would be the real challenge.
Over the next four years I remained in my cocoon of security very
much like the man invited to join those masochists who, once a year,
usually on Christmas Day, insist on plunging through the ice into the
Serpentine in London. I would nervously approach the water’s edge,
shiver, convince myself it would be too cold, and then retreat to the
warmth of my towel and robe. I did this several times but the thought
process and learning process accompanied me on my travels from New York
to Johannesburg and from Paris to Kuwait, whilst I continued to enjoy
the comforts afforded to me from my corporate existence. Those four
years were certainly not wasted because I took the opportunity to
attend as many lectures, seminars and courses as I could reasonably fit
in and I read voraciously, looking for the spark of inspiration – some
divine intervention that would lead me to my true vocation. Then in
1994 I attended my first Earl Nightingale seminar.
On that day in September, as I listened to him illustrate the fact
that most people are like rudderless boats bobbing up and down on the
ocean, being taken wherever the currents should wish to lead them, then
reminiscing in old age and saying to themselves ‘If only I had’ or ‘I
wish I had’ and essentially blaming everybody else for their
unfulfilment and lack of achievement. Whereas, he said, that the small
percentage that took control of their vessel and steered into ‘harbours
of opportunity’ would look back with satisfaction and say ‘I have’ and
‘I did’.
I remember he quoted Albert Einstein,” The definition of insanity is
to continue to do the same things in the hope that those things will
miraculously achieve a different result.” In other words, “Keep doing
what you are doing and you will keep getting what you have been
getting” and in my case that was unacceptable.
He also said that all successful people had at least two things in
common: The first was their attitude and the second was that they all
expected to be successful and because they wanted it badly enough, they
brought about its happening i.e. fulfilled expectation.
As I drove home that evening, I felt inspired… I had experienced my epiphany and my mind was made up, I was ready to leave the comfort zone.
Finally in 1995 I dropped my towel for the last time and plunged in;
jfa was born and that journey of a thousand miles had begun with a
first tentative step.
In Summary:
Success should be something you don’t just ‘Kinda
Sorta’ want to achieve but something you must achieve. If you really
want to create your own business, something for you, free from the
constraints that go with a 9 to 5 existence, or even a 9 to 9
existence, you must be prepared to leave the comfort zone.
Generally, successful people expect to be successful and as a
consequence, they usually are. They are driven by a have to attitude
not a want to attitude. If you are going to climb out of your comfort zone, you must deep down feel that you have to.
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