A former client called me to discuss the loss to a competitor of an assignment she had set her heart on winning.  She had been told that the competitor was seen as a better fit with the company’s collaborative culture.  “It’s not true!  I know those people,” she said. The presentation had seemed to go well and she had sensed that the selection committee had been favorably impressed.

There was one awkward moment.  She had been asked how updates on progress would be handled.  “I told them how we do it, and one of the committee members started pushing for more frequent updates.  I said we could do that, though I wasn’t sure too many more were warranted, given the amount of information that we were likely to have to pass on.”  She wasn’t sure who the man was.

There are several possible missteps in this description, but what I expect hurt her most was trying to answer a boomerang question.  Beware of the boomerang questions.  They can cost you the sale.

A boomerang question is one the speaker asks you, hoping that you will ask the same question of him.  For example, imagine you are in a sales meeting with senior people from the client organization.  One of them comes from the staff of that part of the organization you work with most closely, be that the finance, human resources, information technology, legal or some other department.  This person is ten years older than you and will have day-to-day responsibility for the matter you hope to help with.  We will call her the engagement manager.  You are describing your team, when she asks, “Typically, what is the role of the engagement manager when you work on this kind of issue?”

Answer this question at your peril!  A rainmaker will immidiately bass the question back to th client.  The chances are high that the prospective client doesn’t want you to answer.  Instead she wants to be heard on the subject.  Give the wrong answer and you will find yourself in an argument or worse have created a silent enemy who will kill your chances of winning once you are out of the room.  An appropriate response is, “That depends a lot on the engagement manager.  Do you have any thoughts on the subject?”

    •  Boomerang questions are a subset of a larger group, called recognition questions, used by speakers when they want to state an opinion.  Other kinds of recognition questions are much easier to identify.  Often they are statements introduced with a short phrase like, “Isn’t it true that . . .” Boomerang questions are a special case, because they are so much harder to recognize.

Here are two more examples:

Boomerang questions are common.  You probably use them, yourself.  (Honey, do you have any plans for Friday evening?) But don’t . . . don’t ever . . . confuse them with a request for information.